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That brought to light for me for the first time that having an abortion is not necessarily anti-child.

I haven’t personally had an abortion but my life has definitely been affected by abortion in a lot of ways. When I was about 13 years old, a friend and I were hanging out and for some reason the subject came up. She said she personally was opposed to abortion because her teenage mother had actually gone into an abortion clinic but had decided at the last minute not to terminate the pregnancy. My friend was later adopted by another family who had taken very good care of her. So she was opposed to abortion because if her mother had had one, she essentially wouldn’t exist.

 I knew that my mother had had two abortions and I also knew that my parents only wanted two children.  So, as the younger of two girls, I knew that if my mother had not had her abortions, my sister and I wouldn’t exist since she would have done something to prevent another pregnancy from occurring. And so I said to my friend well, yeah, because your mother didn’t have an abortion, you exist but if my mom hadn’t had two abortions, I wouldn’t exist.

That brought to light for me for the first time that having an abortion is not necessarily anti-child. It’s just that you end up with a different family than you otherwise would have had at maybe a better time for you.  After all, we are full of infinite groupings for creating life. Almost all of them never occur, and few of us concern ourselves with that lost potential. Rather than agonizing over all of the cellular combinations that never came to be, we should celebrate the beautiful randomness of human life and cherish the people who actually exist.


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